When people ask “What do you do?” I always tell them I’m a (stay at home) mom, which I most certainly am. But I’m more than that, I’m a friend, a supervisor, a cook, a maid. I’m a wife.
I try to be supportive. My husband plays guitar (and several other instruments). Our house looks somewhat like a music store, complete with two drum sets and a plethora of guitars and amps. I love that he is musical, but it’s not always convenient to have an impromptu concert in the living room. I try to give him time and space to do his thing.
I try to be attentive. With two kids, it’s easy to let my husband and his needs slip to the side so I make an effort to make him a priority. Listening is so important. Do we have different interests? Yes. But that doesn’t mean I can’t listen to him talk about power tubes and pick ups. He listens to me talk about all things kitchen, laundry, and kids.
I try to always have dinner on the table when he gets home. He works so hard to take care of us and for me to be able to stay home with the kids, so I try to feed him when he’s hungry. He doesn’t ask for it, but I know he appreciates it. He likes to eat quickly so he has more time to spend with the kids.
I try to have all the housework done by the time the kids are in bed. We don’t have a lot of alone time together. Between my husband’s work schedule and our location (far, far away from family and friends), we never have a babysitter so we have learned to make the most of our nights and early mornings. If the house is messy or I have a list of things to do, I’m not being fair to either of us. Making time to spend together is essential.
We love our kids and they always come first, but it’s still so important to make each other a priority. I sneak notes into his lunchbox, I make his favorite cookies, I pack his lunch in the morning, I compliment him. I look for things I can do to help him, things I can do for him to show him I care. A late night back rub, mowing the lawn so he doesn’t have to. Simple things can mean a lot.
He spoils me (and the kids) so I try to be good to him. I say “try” because I’m not perfect, I slip up a lot. The important thing is that he knows I make an effort and that I love and appreciate him. When you want something to last a lifetime, you take care of it.
Are you married or in a relationship? What are your tips for success?
Have a great day! Xo